Dear Friends of Meditation
You may feel you would like some more peace of mind in your life. You may feel you want more kindness in your life. Whatever you feel you want more of and feel you don’t have it, you are not alone with this.
There are thousands and thousands of people who want the same. And we are all ready to share this gift of silence and serenity with everybody who reaches out to us.
You are not alone with these thoughts and these wishes.
You came so far on your own already, but sometimes it is time to reach out and ask for guidance.
I am glad you are here.
Let me guide you, I am absolutely happy to do so.
Some thoughts about Meditation in general
Which style of Meditation you choose is not the important question to begin with. It is much more important that you do give yourself the time and space from time to time to rest, to sit and just breathe. Just let your thoughts pass, let the day pass, just let it be.
These are the times when you can appreciate what you have, feel that gratitude. These are the times when you can feel that you are happy and lucky. These are the times when you feel yourself … just feel … and just be … your self.
Those moments of bliss and joy come from your inside. Those moments make you realise that happiness and contentment are an inside job. Those moments are the moments you really want to live for – when you realise and feel how lucky you are.
So whether you sit down 5 minutes per day or 1 hour is again ultimately also not important. But to do it regularly, and even more when you feel you don’t have the time. Just 5 minutes per day are enough to empty your cache, to let the mind go where it wants to go, until it is going quiet. What a blissful feeling that is.
Does that sound like something for you?
Why don’t you give it a try. It is worth it.
It opens your world to a whole new level of possibilities. It brings you benefits you might not even know of now. It brings you joy, bliss and contentment without you doing much for it.
Maybe this is why we doubt it so much. We have learned that we need to earn something and work hard for it and ultimately do a lot to reach those stage.
But what if you can reach further by not doing that much, but by being something … your self.
Being present and enjoy life. Does that sound like something you could do for 5 minutes per day each day?
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And of course I do have more courses ready for you to use, starting right here and right now in my Academy of Making Sense. Go there and have a look, I am sure you find something that suits you.
And – I am here too … ask me, reach out to me and we can work together.
“Thanks so much for everything, I truly feel like your meditations have helped me with different ways of dealing with things and generally being a bit kinder to myself.
Much love, Paige”
Meditation Courses in our Academy of Making Sense for You
Mindfulness and how I feel about it
Mindfulness for me is accepting life as it is, as it unfolds … being completely in the here and now … feeling the presence that there is … always … not just during your meditation … but in your day to day life … you make your life so much easier once you have experienced the mindfulness in every moment of your being … you can use your breath to become aware of your moment to moment experiences, or become aware of your body. You may as well walk with an awareness within every step you take, brush your teeth mindfully and be fully present while peeling an orange or dicing a carrot … all these things can become part of your day and therefore be your mindful meditation.
Just sitting there and being still doesn’t make you automatically spiritual or kind or compassionate … but it is a start … probably your patience will be the first to be tested and from there on … well, best you experience it yourself.
Start watching your breath … just as it is … in … and out … feel it … feel it at your nostrils … and then maybe after a while feel it moving your body … become aware of the length of your breath … the length of your in breath … and the length of your out breath … and while you are listening to yourself … become aware of your presence … your just being … being present … how does that feel? … how does your body feel? … how does your mind feel? … best write it down and look at it from time to time … because your journey of getting to know your self has just begun.
Frequently Asked Questions
You don’t need to sit cross legged if that is not comfortable for you. You feeling comfortable is most important. Whichever position feels right for you that is the position to choose. You should be able to sit comfortably and breathe unhindered for the time of the meditation. Best if you sit upright (for most meditations) your spine being straight, but still in a natural position, so that your energy can flow from head to toes and from toes back to your head.
I personally prefer to meditate with my eyes closed, as it feels much more relaxed to me. If you feel more comfortable when you still see the light, then feel free to do so. Have a gaze on an object or on a point in front of you on the ground. Some meditation techniques work completely and only with that gaze. Completely up to you how you can relax better. Ultimately that is paramount.
That is probably one of the greatest misconceptions of modern meditation. Especially for a beginner it is not important to have no thoughts to start with. It is more important to not attach to your thoughts. Thoughts may come, but they also go. Just like your breath comes and goes and you don’t hold on to it. When a thought comes, just acknowledge it … and then let it go … like a cloud in the sky … bring your attention back to the next breath or whatever it is you are exercising with. The more you exercise this letting go, the sooner the stillness will come to you.
Absolutely yes. Most children enjoy the meditations. It seems to come more natural to them. Even if they have problems sitting still for a certain time, they get used to it more and more every week.
Well, the best way to learn it is to do it. Meditation is one of those things, you can read thousand books about it, but all that is nothing compared to actually experiencing it. And to master it you have to go through the motions. Just like an athlete, you will exercise and enjoy every single time more and more, because it becomes more and more effortless. It becomes your second nature.
When? That depends on your time schedule and your nature. Sometimes I meditate in the morning, sometimes in the evening. If you are a beginner it probably is helpful to start a daily routine at the same time. Maybe your lunch break? Your commute home or to work? Whenever you can integrate it naturally into your life, that is the way to do it. It shouldn’t feel coerced, that would be against it’s nature.
How often? Well, how often would you like to meditate? I recommend to meditate on a daily basis, just because it then can be integrated into your daily routine. If you don’t have a daily routine or your days vary too much, than look how you can integrate it into that. Again, it should come naturally and with joy.
How long? Most books recommend 1 hour per day. If you are able to do that, congratulations, you are on a fabulous way. For most people 20 min per day is more realistic. You can find 20 min per day. And if you have a really hectic day, then you should even more find 20 min (maybe in the bathroom?) somewhere. If you manage to find 20 min every day, you are fast ahead of most other people. Even if on some days you only find 5 min is ok. But aim for 20 min, that is more effective. You will feel the difference. And again, if it comes natural and with joy, you will automatically begin to meditate a bit longer from time to time.
Well, the best meditation is the one that works for you. We are all different and we have different preferences, different routines and different lives. We live differently and have different backgrounds. This is why there are so many different types of meditation. Find the style that works for you, this is the best for you.
If you have your own room to meditate in, how wonderful, that of course is great. If not, then find a routine, a place, a surrounding that calms you down naturally and nourishes you. You can work with incense, with music, with symbols, to get you into a meditative mood. But ultimately, you can also just sit down, close your eyes, and … start meditating … and enjoy the whole process … with candles or without them.
When you have a distraction, there are always two ways to deal with them. First, accept them as they are and surrender to them. If you feel you can’t (yet) do that, then change the posture or wipe the fly away and then just carry on. It is a bit like the thought coming in. Don’t cling to it … accept it or change it … and then go back to your original task. You can choose wether to re-act to the distraction or not … that can become a meditation on it’s own.
Check your posture. The more you slouch, the more likely you will loose concentration and fall asleep.
Check your sleep as such. Are you sleep deprived? Then maybe practise some meditation first that get you into a better sleep mode.
What sometimes happens in the first sessions is that at some point your head will start nodding, because your mind can’t grasp what you are doing. It thinks ‘oh, silence, we are sleeping’, head nodding, ‘oh, no, we are not. What are we doing here?’ Your whole body has to get used to this ‘new’ state of mind. And also, our postures are not very good most of the day, so that the muscles are tight in the neck and around. We are not used to holding a straight posture anymore and the more you relax, the more likely your head will develop a ‘mind of it’s own’. That will disappear in most cases after just a few session.
Proven Benefits of Meditation
Lowers Blood Pressure
Meditation connects you with your soul, and this connection gives you access to your intuition, your heartfelt desires, your integrity, and the inspiration to create a life you love
Reliefs Asthma related problems
Higher Awareness – especially of bad habits
Don't just take my word for it ...
Some praise from very happy people who attended my meditation courses and workshops
I liked the focus on chakras in the meditations, which was also something I wanted to learn more about.
Every time I walked into Sandra’s peaceful little meditation room, I could feel my body relax with pleasure, in anticipation of the time I was giving back to myself.
Sandra’s approach is very open and encouraging and I really appreciated the opportunities to discuss the meditation experiences afterwards. I now have a regular meditation practice at home which is crucial to my ongoing sense of wellbeing.
Thank you, Sandra, for providing a wonderful introduction to a lifetime of meditation."
I truly feel like your meditations have helped me with different ways of dealing with things and generally being a bit kinder to myself.
Love how they flow from the breathwork through to the relaxation and release of the body, to the journeys.
Love, love, love the journeys. I do struggle with the silence as I have always been drawn to meditations with music, but embrace the difficulty as a good learning tool to be able to be more in my authentic self."